it’s fun to say “douchebag”

and there’s also a point here about male dating columnists telling women that rude behavior is “natural,” so guys can’t help it. It tends to feel more like excusing or special pleading than explaining or arbitrating.

3 Comments so far

  1. Steve on July 8th, 2008

    I think there is a difference between a dating columnist/expert and a PUA. There are not to many men who are the former. Of that group I would never accuse Evan Marc Katz of being a db. One of the most diplomatic blogger/columists I have ever read. Of the later group, I agree times 10!.

    Being a “db” isn’t limited to PUA bloggers/authors. It seems like there is a hidden rule somewhere that men who write for men on the concerns of men must write in an adolescent style.

    Thing is, there are a lot of intelligent men out there who what advice and/or conversations about men’s issues who are intelligent who could do without the adolescent tone.

  2. kmcleod on July 11th, 2008

    “Evan will take your company or online dating site from concept to launch”

    “After helping hundreds of clients find love online, I’ve created a program that will change your life forever.”

    I treasure diplomatic bloggers, but after being told by people since puberty that love is just a game, now I’m being told it’s another career.

  3. virginia on July 30th, 2008

    Yes, yes, you smart men! Why must “men who wrote on the concerns of men write in an adolescent style”??? Why? These guys are selling y’all short.

    And Kenneth, for a great riff on the “love is work” idea, read Laura Kipnis’s Against Love, really really funny. She goes Marxist with it, has a section on the “relationship gulag” and wonders when we get to knock off work and just have fun.

    I’m about to post making my break official; I feel guilty having a blog up and not posting to it.

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