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masculinity and its discontents

first my online dating guru rival weighs in on Maureen Dowd’s question of why fabulous successful women can’t get dates

and relatedly, guys show an ostrich who da man.

5 Comments so far

  1. kmcleod on October 9th, 2007

    To the right of the ostricide story on the page is another example of male pattern badness:

    http://www.reuters.com/article/newsOne/idUSL0914187920071009

  2. Steve on October 12th, 2007

    I know there are personality traits that I think of “masculine” and “feminine”, but I think this guy was stretching things by labeling being blunt, direct as
    “masculine” and equating being criticized with being “emasculated”.

    I have to say that I found the article to be very insightful and I found the author to have a lot of tact with the way he answered that woman.

    In regards to the thing about the Ostrich, sending the guy to jail for several months reveals the hypocrisy of our culture in regard to animals.

    That Ostrich was going to be killed and end up on somebody’s plate anyway. If the Ostrich industry is anything like the pig, cattle or chicken industry that Ostrich got a more merciful death by being shot. Given our culture and laws in regards to animals we make immune to cruelty laws since we label them as food, the most that guy should have gotten is a fine for destroying property and maybe trespassing.

  3. Steve on October 17th, 2007

    On a related note, another good article from
    “Heartless Bitches International”

    Why “Nice Guys” are often such LOSERS

    http://heartless-bitches.com/rants/niceguys/niceguys.shtml

  4. virginia on October 18th, 2007

    the heartless bitches had some points, but I gotta say, Sometimes nice is just nice! Not insecure, a pleaser, martyr, passive-aggressive, etc. It seems too bad to throw out a perfectly good word for a very good quality with the bathwater of neuroses that occasionally accompany “nice” behavior, IF I may torture (waterboard I guess it would be) a cliched metaphor to death.

    Because often, people behave nicely because they are happy, getting what they want, secure and generous. It’s not ALWAYS compensation, a trick or something else nasty that causes nice!

  5. Steve on October 19th, 2007

    I agree, I think it would have been better in the essay/rant to make the point to those men that they are confusing “nice” with being insecure.

    I really liked the essay though. When I was a teenager I was a little bit like that. When I was in gradschool I had a housemate who could have been the inspiration for that essay. It was painful to watch him.