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Virginia VitzthumVirginia Vitzthum is a writer who lives in Brooklyn with a cat (freaky, right? Never seen THAT combination). She is less expectedly a leading expert on online dating, on account of doing it for almost six years, off and on. And also on account of interviewing scores of online daters for her debut book. The thing is though that one smallish, albeit wonderful book can’t possibly contain everything about this fascinating, sad, creative, occasionally inspiring ritual, and I want to keep a conversation going about it. So drop a line, and let’s not be mean!

Contact me (but not you, spambots!): letsmeet [at] virginiavitzthum [dot] com

6 Comments so far

  1. Anonymous on November 5th, 2006
  2. Yuri9 on February 14th, 2007

    I enjoyed your interview on Diane Rehm this morning. I was at home do to the snow/ice, unable to get to the main street until my driveway access road is plowed–I tried but my Subaru would not make it. That is the only reason I heard you; normally I would have been at work. It also explains why I will not be able to get to your signing event tonight, regretfully.

    I appreciate your candor and openness. It was refreshing. My neighbor’s children came to my door, I guess to play, but I could not leave because your interview was so interesting.

    My problem is I find it virtually impossible to be untruthful. That plus a preference to listen to others rather than expound my virtues makes it more difficult to well myself. I also prefer being succinct.

    I wish you continued success with your book.

  3. emm on February 16th, 2007

    Were you a Severn School student circa 1976 who tended to use the phrase “space cadet” a couple years before it became part of the general vernacular?
    There just can’t be all that many folks with your name.

  4. Aria Littlhous on July 6th, 2007

    Hi V,

    I loved your book! And of course it made me want to ask the moot question: are you dating anyone? Of course you success is no predictor of mine, but, well such penmanship seemed like the ultimate strategy, until…Well, first let me say I did–if I remember correctly–disagree with you on two points. One, I think astrology is as good a way of culling the herd as any; after all, electrons are just the book jacket, you really can’t get much from such a flat medium, why not add a bit of spin. And two, I think the craigslist rocks! Did you see the Providence ad from the guy living in Montana! Craigslist is like the universe; endless, chaotic, haphazard possibilities. The idea that there are only bottom feeders on the singles ads belays the vastness of the Internet and, if you don’t mind me saying so, is elitist. Just because someone can’t afford a paid add doesn’t mean he’s a a creep. And everyone loves a deal; everyone gets restless and decides to shoot an arrow into the sky on a whim, if they don”t well…”that’s why they’re single” 🙂

    To wit: about ten minutes ago I posted on CL offering green card marriage and asking that the respondent send only date, time, and location of birth. I added a few criteria, and who knows, this could be it. If nothing else, I’m laughing, and in the find a partner game, that says a lot.

    Let me know if you want the upshot.

  5. virginia on July 11th, 2007

    You bet I want the upshot, Aria! Thanks for writing and glad you liked the book.

    In defense of the craigslist “bottom-feeder” remark: Hey, I LOVE free stuff. I am the most free-loving person in the world. I also love shooting arrows into the universe. And there are gems on craigslist, but so much of what’s on there is dashed-off, not thoughtful, creepy, or hateful (though to be fair that’s more in Rants n Raves). You’re right, the universe is chaotic, too, but I guess I think since the medium allows you to put more thought and effort into your communication, why not do that? Some do on CL, but most don’t.

    I hope you find your foreign husband. I am still single, so if he has any brothers, maybe we can have a double ceremony.

  6. Eric on November 10th, 2007

    Hi Virginia –

    Just a shout saying I love your work. I followed it at Elle and on Salon. I was wondering where you’d run off to! (Meaning where I could currently find your writing.) Today I stumbled across your Web site while scanning the Internet for something else.

    I’m looking forward to reading your book.